Who doesn’t fall in love? Generally, we first experience falling in love during puberty, which is between the ages of 10-16 years. At that age we also first felt the bitter sweetness of dating. Ugh … It feels like the world belongs to both!
But, do you know what changes occur in the body and brain when falling in love? Why does our heart rustle and become embarrassed when we see him? Find your answer here, let’s!
1. Get to know the three stages of love first
Falling in love isn’t as simple as it seems. Broadly speaking, falling in love consists of three stages, you know. Namely lust (lust), attraction (attraction) and long-term attachment (long-term attraction), said the page of The Anatomy of Love. What is the meaning of these stages?
The first stage is lust, which is regulated and controlled by the hormones estrogen and testosterone. Then, moving on to the second stage, interest is driven by the hormones adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin. These are chemicals that are released when we experience pleasant things. The adrenaline hormone is the reason behind the blushing of the cheeks and palms that sweat when meeting people we like.
Meanwhile, long-term attraction is regulated by oxytocin and vasopressin which will encourage bonding between two people. The interesting fact is that the hormone oxytocin is also known as a hug hormone and this hormone is a driving force between mother and child. Each of these chemicals works in certain parts of the brain when we fall in love.
2. We only need 1.5 hours to fall in love with strangers?
Can we fall in love with strangers for the first time? The answer: it really works! Research conducted by Professor Arthur Arun, a psychologist from New York proves that two strangers can fall in love with each other in just 94 minutes!
This study is a combination of four minutes looking into each other’s eyes and the remaining 90 minutes having intimate and deep conversations, says page W24. The key is a good first impression between the two.
3. The scientific fact behind the word ‘love is blind’
Ever heard the word ‘love is blind’? Or has it been difficult to advise our friends who are in love? Relax, there is a scientific explanation behind that phenomenon, how come! According to Mary Lynn, co-director of Loyola Sexual Wellness Clinic, love can reduce serotonin levels in the body.
“This is why we concentrate fully on couples, not anything else, in the early stages of the relationship,” explained Mary in the Science Daily page.
From there, the phrase ‘love is blind’ comes. This is because we tend to idealize partners and only see the things we want to see in the early stages of the relationship. That is why, people who fall in love cannot think logically and realistically. Meanwhile, outsiders have more clear, objective and rational perspectives.
4. There is a change in testosterone when we fall in love
Falling in love brings hormonal changes in the body. One of them is testosterone, according to Deborah Khoshaba, a clinical psychologist from southern California.
“Increasing the hormone testosterone in women when they fall in love makes them more aggressive and sexual,” Deborah said on The List page.
Meanwhile, for men, the hormone testosterone in them actually decreases. The effect is that men will become more emotional, accepting and empathetic. In common, for men and women, the initial stage of falling in love together makes them obsessed with each other.